Whose life are you living really?
Money Making Insider | 30 September, 2009 | Hot Topics:
Whose life are you living?Are you living your own life, or someone else’s?
Strange question, but think about it for a moment.
What messages were you given as a youngster by your family, friends and teachers?
Yes you may have come from that ‘one in a thousand’ family who said you could be anything as long as you were happy.
Most of us were programmed from an early age to become something we’re not.
Often the programming was blatant: “All Bradley men are motor mechanics...”(So you’ll be one too.)
Or: “We come from a long line of great cooks...” (Time to get the recipe book out then!)
Maybe the programming was more subtle: “Sarah’s husband is such a great family man.” Or: “Joan’s daughter is so musical and talented.”
Bottom line is - these messages were entrenched in your mind.
Usually it was drip-fed into your soul over many years - often in a well-meaning way, of course, by people who had ‘your best interests’ at heart.
So you ended up where you are right now.
Take a long hard look at your life. Is it where you want to be? Are you living your dream?
Probably not.
Most people simply aren’t doing what they WANT to do but what they’re SUPPOSED to do.
They are living unfulfilled lives and wasting their genuine natural talents.
Isn’t that tragic?
How about you?
Which sort of life are you living? Maybe you can make a start at finding out what went wrong by trying to tease-out your own early programming. I have a clever trick today that’ll help you get started:
Take a sheet of paper and write down your own 'Job from Heaven'. Go on. Let your imagination run riot. You can design your perfect fantasy job.
Where will you work? Who will you work with? In what sort of environment? Doing what? What hours will you work? What salary will you be paid? Is it a manual job? A creative job?
Just put down anything you can think of which would make your working day blissful. Of course you'll probably find this fairly difficult. The reason is the second you try to fantasise about your ideal job, negative thoughts and old scripts crowd your mind, effectively saying to you: "Don't be silly! You can't have that!" "That would be impossible; that's asking too much."
Now, here's a neat trick.
Take another sheet of paper and on the top of it write: "My Job From Hell."
Describe the nightmarish work environment, write about the crummy people you'll be working with and the dreary tasks you'll be performing. Moan about your measly salary and your skinflint boss. I can guarantee you'll hardly be able to stop writing!
You will take a ghoulish delight in putting down every awful detail. You'll run out of paper and ink long before you run out of ghastly details of that job.
Please do this exercise, don't just read about it. You'll be quite stunned by its effect.
The next part of this exercise is to take your 'Job From Hell' and write the exact opposite of everything you have put down.
For example if you wrote: "I work in a dark, noisy, fume-filled factory, with loud pop music blaring all day over speakers," then rewrite this, maybe something like: "I work in a light, quiet, airy office."
If you wrote: "Each day is the same as the last, I produce an endless stream of identical widgets, and never receive any praise or thanks for my work" you need to rewrite this as follows:
"Each day I work on something different, no two projects are the same and I receive a huge amount of praise, admiration and respect for my work."
Get the idea? Once it’s written down, if you feel comfortable, I'd love you to share it with me: pascale@fsp.co.za.
You see, what you are doing is using the 'Job from Hell' as a method of bypassing the subconscious mind. You're finding out what you DON'T want, and reversing it to produce your Job from Heaven.
When I sat down and used this technique, I was quite surprised by the results. I found out things about myself that I had not been aware of before.
The purpose of this exercise is to manufacture a large Day-Glo signpost that will point the way to your passion.
Let me know which way your signpost is pointing.
In the name of financial freedom,
Pascale Barrow
Managing Editor of What Really Makes Money
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